30 Days of PH: Grief

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Day 13 of 30 Days of PH⁣⠀ Topic: Grief⁣⠀ Evan shares her story of grief, @ladyevanne⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ Grief – is a word that is used to explain the pain of losing a loved one to death. The emptiness of not having a person in your daily life. Grief and PH are different in all aspects because when your son has been given the diagnosis, the grief of a life unlived is what you feel first as a mother. I never really thought about death, even though Sean reminded me time and time again that it could happen.⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ My son, Sean Wyman, was the poster boy of everything great about life with PH. He did everything he wanted and had a full life albeit a short one. On his 19th birthday, doctors said, “you have 6 to 18 months to live. Go home and get your affairs in order." So, he came home and sat. Immediately, we went through the testing for being put on the transplant list. But this was when you got on the list and prayed you were alive when your name reaches the top. ⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ He sat in a chair for a year, then he got up and said “I’m not dead yet,” and went back to school. First the Associate's degree, then the BA, MS, and finally his degree in Osteopathic Medicine. My son became a doctor! A healer! Unfortunately, death was closer than he or I thought. He died the day he was accepted for the third time for a transplant, a resident physician who changed lives just by being himself!⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ I was floored. Devastated to get the call that he was gone. It was unimaginable. Inconceivable. Complete denial on my part. Seeing his body sent me through shockwaves. I could accept it. I didn’t deal well at first with everything, then the Sean Wyman Superman was born from the grief of his loved ones. We had bracelets made in his honor, and they were sent all over the world. He created lips painted blue, and it became www.lipspaintedblue.com an explanation of PH for others.⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ Every moment of every day I miss my son. I honor him by sharing his story. If his name is said and he is remembered, he lives on. ⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ #30DaysofPH⁣⠀ ⁣⠀ #Grief

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Jen Cueva Jen Cueva lives in San Diego, California, with her husband and mini schnauzer, Zoe. Jen worked in nursing before the script changed upon her diagnosis of pulmonary hypertension (PH), group 1, in 2005. Advocacy has been essential to her life. Her passion is to instill hope and remind others in the PH community that they are not alone. To do this, she serves as a forum moderator for Pulmonary Hypertension News and in her weekly column she delves into the roller coaster of emotions that accompany PH. It is powerful and meaningful to her to have this opportunity to play a role in helping others become more informed and educated so they are more empowered in their journey. Together, we PHight stronger!

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