Replacing Feelings of Defeat with Feeling Grateful

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It’s the feeling of dizziness. It’s the fatigue that seems to come out of nowhere, the inability to concentrate on the mindless TV show in front of me and the headache the pulses through me that alerts me that my oxygen levels are low.

I grab my pulse ox monitor, clip it on my finger and wait for what seems like eternity until it flashes a number at me. I watch in disbelief as it reads 75 percent, trying to convince myself it’s wrong. Quickly, I place it on another finger just to be sure 76 percent, not that far off from the first reading. Walking to my oxygen concentrator, I take the cannula and put it back in my nose where it should be. In that moment, I accept that I need oxygen. I have to choose to accept this every single day, over and over again. sensor

It’s difficult to move past the feelings of giving in. Moving from feelings of defeat to acceptance is challenging, but it’s necessary to take care of yourself mentally and physically. Whether you need oxygen, take medications daily, have injections or get procedures done more times than you want to count, it’s easy to feel defeated.

When I actually stop to think about the reality of the stress my body endures just to push through a day, I get overwhelmed. I think about the medication that keeps my heart from going into an arrhythmia, the pacemaker on which I am almost fully dependent to keep my heart steady, the supplemental oxygen that I use more times in a day than my own breath. This is what makes it easy for me to become angry and upset — that my own body can’t do these basic functions for me. Our own bodies are the one thing we hope to depend on to get us through the day.

Unfortunately, many living with PH know that our bodies can disappoint. It’s easy to get caught up in disappointment. I display these feelings through anger and sadness. To protect my mental health as well as my physical health, I had to change the way I think about my illness ancannulad all that I must do to take proper care of myself. Something that has helped me get through feeling defeated and disappointed is replacing those negative emotions with something positive.

Each day, I have to replace feelings of disappointment and defeat with feelings of gratitude. It’s not easy to keep this mindset. I get frustrated countless times throughout the day. I have found that being grateful has allowed me to get closer to accepting the harsh realities of needing oxygen and having PH.

I’m grateful that I have a pacemaker that is keeping my heart from pausing and having episodes of sinus arrest. I’m grateful my heart rate is no longer dangerously low. I’m grateful that medicine has advanced enough so I can take a medication in the morning and at night that will keep my heart from going into SVT. The medication allows the pacemaker to keep me on a steady pace so I am no longer up all hours of the night with a rate so fast, as though I’d just sprinted in a race.

I’m grateful my oxygen relieves my symptoms of headache, nausea, fatigue, and lethargy. I’m grateful oxygen is able to restore my levels back above 95 percent. It is keeping me from the traumas of hospital stays and being transported by ambulance because of a syncope episode.

Being grateful for all of the things that may cause so much anger, sadness, and frustration is not easy. Maybe you’re not at the stage where you are thanking your oxygen for bringing the right amount of air to your lungs. If this seems like a daunting mindset to achieve, just start off by thinking about the positives that medications, treatments and oxygen bring to your life.

There are so many days where I wish I had more of a life. But what I’m most thankful for is that science has blessed me with the chance to have one.


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delores potter avatar

delores potter

I'm awaiting my oxygen now. I feel anything but greatful. I have COPD and severe pulmonary left-sided hypertension (for which there appears to be no real treatment). I'm not a it seems really unfair. Why Me? It's what I ask, because I grew up in a home without smoke, and I don't smoke. I don't feel lucky at all. I'm doomed and I know it, and I accept it.

Brittany Foster avatar

Brittany Foster

I'm so sorry you are going through such a hard time with difficult emotions. My emotions are also far from always being grateful. What I am trying to say in this post is that some days I need a break from all the hate and anger towards my illness. It gives me a chance to mentally reflect. I wouldn't be alive today without modern medicine and for the chance to be alive, I'm grateful even if some days I don't feel as if I'm truly living the way I would have imagined. Grieving our illness is hard. My heart and thoughts are with you. Xoxo

Kristin Philipps avatar

Kristin Philipps

Hi Brittany. thank you for sharing your story and trying to be grateful for all you have endured and lost. My 18 year old daughter was diagnosed with PH in 3rd grade. So i have lived and "breathed" it for almost 10 years. I have grieved along with her the loss of many things. But am also grateful for the meds that keep her alive and breathing!!! I hope and pray Gods blessings for you and your future.....Kristin Philipps

Cathy J Maurer avatar

Cathy J Maurer

I was diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension 3 years ago. I'm just now having to go on oxygen. I never smoked either. My biggest concern is being able to get a small enough oxygen canister to continue to travel Roto Ca. to see my family. They are very expensive & Medicare isn't that easy.

Jen avatar


Hi Brittany ,
Sorry true !
You have been through so much for your young age . I commend you and I too , try and focus on the positives . Some days , as you mention , is just overwhelming to say the least but we have to continue to push our bodies and respect and be proud of all we have and are dealing with .

It's definitely an emotional roller coaster .
Hugs and take care ❤️


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