Making the ‘Waiting Game’ a Little Easier

Making the ‘Waiting Game’ a Little Easier

recharged and rewired,brittany foster


We all have played “the waiting game” at some point in our lives. Those of us with pulmonary hypertension or other chronic illnesses sometimes feel as though we are just pieces in this game. Our pieces are moved around to different surgeries, tests, and procedures, and we move back three spaces after moving forward one.

I feel as though I am constantly picking the wrong cards in this game. Many times I act like a child about to lose, saying, “I quit, I’m not playing anymore.” The truth is that there are no rules of the game; no manual to make it any easier. We are all trying to figure it out without any directions. But I’ve gathered some tips and learned some tricks along the way. Here are some of them:

  1. Ask the doctor ahead of time when you can expect to hear back. It is important to speak up and advocate for yourself. Don’t be afraid to call the surgeon’s office and check in once or twice a week to let people there know that you are still waiting. You may, like me, feel guilty or like a bother, but DON’T. This is your health and your life. Always push for the best.
  2. While you are waiting, research reputable sources and look up information on best treatment options for your particular case. If you are curious about where to find information, ask the doctors you are working with or go to a site like the PH Association to find a list of resources. Do NOT just resort to Google for an answer (symptoms can turn from a common cold to death when you WebMD it).
  3.  Get sleep. I always find sleep difficult during times of anxiety and worry. But sleep is so important to regulating mood and maintaining as much energy as possible. Sometimes “counting sheep” and “taking deep breaths” doesn’t work. It’s OK to talk to your primary care doctor about something that can help you sleep. There are natural supplements, as well as prescription anxiety medication, that may help to give you a better night’s sleep. Consult with a doctor before taking ANYTHING.
  4. I am guilty of “stress eating,” or barely eating anything, when I feel overwhelmed. Many will resort to one or both of these extremes in response to a life stressor. I PROMISE neither of these will make you feel any better. Something that helps make sure I am taking care of myself is to plan my meals ahead of time. I bag my snacks for the day so that I am not tempted to mindlessly eat an entire bag of chips. I make sure that I have a big breakfast to help me feel better throughout the day, and I try to stick to lots of vegetables and protein at night.
  5. Find distractions that work for you. I like to stay busy by writing about my feeling when the emotions get to be too much. I distract myself by reading, especially at night when I am trying to sleep. I make sure to leave some time to spend with friends and go to lunch or dinner, or do something relaxing such as seeing a movie. My favorite trick if I need a good cry is to put on a romance movie like “The Notebook.” It seems to force out my emotions and allows me to focus on something better (Ryan Gosling).

These are just a few tricks I have learned to take care of myself while waiting — one of the hardest parts of managing a chronic illness.

Most of our lives are spent waiting for the next procedure, results, and plan of action. But simple things like continuing to advocate for your health, getting enough sleep, eating well, and keeping distracted (in a healthy way) make the “waiting game” more bearable.

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2 comments

  1. Andrea Rice says:

    Thank you Britany!
    I lack in the patience department now so not having it can start the frustration process that can quickly end up making me want 2 throw in the towel big time.
    I saw a cardiologist until he was transferred 2 surgery, then everything went nuts. It seems from my point of view the department of cardiology doesn’t know what they are doing. I call 4 information and the front desk (bimbos now referring 2 them have no respect anymore) tell me they don’t have access 2 this information and I feel I’m calling the CIA. You don’t have access 2 my info, why not? Don’t I have a file over there? Is it lost?
    Had first appointment with cardiologist after the one I saw was gone and all he did was boast and brag about graduating medical school and becoming a doctor. Remember how I responded 2 this prick told him he needs 2 be thrilled he graduated not me this is his accomplishment, after this he reviewed the information on the computer and that was it. Didn’t talk about how I’m feeling, what’s next 4 me medically, am I candidate for oxygen therapy? Nothing. Instead, 2 weeks later I get a letter saying I’m seeing another cardiologist without any explanation of why and what 4. So, I decide this is it, I’m done going around and around in a circle as if riding a merry-go-round with these supposedly professionally, educated people but my needs still aren’t being addressed. Was suppose 2 go see another doctor but opted just 2 blow off the appointment. What’s the point now? My son has moved on, caregiver service is expensive, chances of me being able 2 get 2 appointment is remote. So, I’ve decided I’m ready 2 go 2 the grave. There’s nothing else I can do. I take my medicine and do what I can on my own.
    It has crossed my mind that I’m being discriminated against because what other reason makes sense? Would a person of means be treated this way? I think not. Don’t have issues with death because it’s the beginning of a new life elsewhere. I made it 2 middle age so I can accept the inevitable yet 2 come.
    What I really want is 2 find somewhere else 2 go even if it were out of state. There has 2 be professionals out there that genuinely care about a person’s life even though they don’t have the means to afford it. I can afford the monthly fee requested if disability were already here. The two go hand in hand but besides myself no one sees the link except me. Used 2 believe disability was dragging their feet until disability contacted me letting me know they need my help because they sent a request 2 cardiology that was never answered, even though more than 1 request was made from disability. What do I do? I’m stuck. Don’t have any issues paying 4 what I owe if I could take the $ out of disability but it seems I’m the only 1 working with disability.
    Has anyone else run into the same problems out there? If so, please voice your opinions. Thanks 4 listening.

    • d says:

      Hi, Andrea!
      I can’t help you with specific advice, but I can say one thing for sure – doctors, just like every one else, they are just humans. Some are nice, some are not, some are scared when they face a disease they barely know, some are financially or administratively pressured not to offer you the best treatment. So if you encounter a doctor you don’t like or who doesn’t like you, don’t give up. Just move on until you find someone who you can work with. Because if you give up, no one wins, only you lose. And life sometimes surprises you with something really nice. All you need to do is keep on breathing.
      I wish you all the best!

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