What Matters Most Is the Glue That Holds Us All Together
A special message this holiday season, wherever you may be
It’s beginning to feel a lot like the day after Christmas.
Hopefully, that feeling is joy, but if it isn’t, what’s bothering you? Were symptoms of pulmonary hypertension making you too ill to go anywhere or do anything? Did the holiday not go according to plan?
Maybe money was tight, or you weren’t well enough to shop for Christmas gifts, leaving little to nothing under the tree; or was it a loved one you were missing more than things?
Are you an exhausted caregiver recovering from the physical and emotional support you provided while attempting to make the holiday season perfect?
Were traditions broken, and maybe a few precious ornaments, too?
We celebrated Thanksgiving in the U.S. last month. In honor of the holiday, I colored a mosaic of a butterfly and wrote a column about how it helped me express what I am most thankful for and why.
It was fortuitous that a few weeks later, I happened upon a TikTok video by the creator Terence Sullivan. In it, he tells a touching story about a grandmother’s unique Christmas mosaic and her hope of rekindling joy among life’s broken pieces.
I’m not sure if Terence is the author of the story. I attempted to contact him, but he did not reply. Whether it is his or not, he does a beautiful job telling it and performs an uncanny impersonation of actor Ryan Reynolds, tearing up as he listens to the story.
The story begins with a grandmother who, much to her daughter Kim’s dismay, gifts her granddaughter a fragile Christmas ornament every year.
The first one she received was a green turtle made of blown glass. As the little girl placed the ornament on a low-hanging branch, Kim questioned the grandmother why she would give a gift this precious to a child.
“She will absolutely break it,” argued Kim, but her frustration grew when the grandmother responded, “Just let it break. We can put it back together.”
Several Christmases later, Kim came up with a solution. She created a “look but don’t touch tree” to display Nanny’s precious ornaments. Sadly, nobody really looked at the special tree out of fear of breaking an ornament.
Terence solemnly lowers his voice and continues with the story, “First Christmas Nanny is no longer with them, Kim is putting the tree together separate from the family tree in the other room.”
This was her private moment with Nanny’s tree. As she delicately placed an ornament, her now adult daughter called to her. When Kim turned in response, she knocked an ornament off the tree, breaking it.
Inconsolable, Kim sweeps the pieces into a dustpan and discovers a little ribbon with a note in her mother’s handwriting tucked inside the broken ornament.
It read, “Kim, this was from your first ballet recital. You wore pink tights with purple hearts and never looked happier. Love Mom.”
It dawns on Kim that every fragile and previously broken ornament was her mother’s way of teaching some kind of lesson.
Kim breaks more ornaments, and inside each, she finds another childhood memory. Her daughter rushes in, concerned that her mother has gone completely insane.
“This was all junk,” Kim exclaimed. “It’s what’s inside that matters!”
Kim smashes another ornament. In it is a wad of tissue containing a little turtle that had been glued back together many years ago, with a note that read, “Kim, it’s gonna break and how beautiful it can be when we put it back together.”
That Christmas, the mother and daughter glued and taped Nanny’s ornaments back together. They hung them all on the family tree, even though they all looked a mess.
“Beautiful mosaic ornaments that meant something,” Terence concluded.
Reflect on what matters most to you
Gathered within your memory of shattered holiday plans are special moments you are forgetting.
Did you watch a Christmas classic or listen to a Christmas song that brought you back to happy holidays as a child? Did you receive Christmas cards or phone calls confirming that people still care and think about you? Did you do something that might not be an old tradition but has the promise of becoming a new one?
If you see more broken ornaments than gifts under your tree, think about what you have that is more valuable than any, such as family, friends, and precious memories of deceased loved ones.
Maybe you couldn’t attend Mass but spent time in private prayer, remembering the reason for the season.
Find the glue that helps mend your heart, mind, and soul.
Cracked but still precious
In a previous column, I shared that my sons Cullen and Aidan wouldn’t be home for Christmas this year. It put a crack in my holiday cheer, but like my broken remembrance ornament for 2022, I found the glue to fix it. Tucked within the imperfect yet beautiful ornament is a folded note to my sons, reminding them it’s what’s inside that matters.
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