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Comparison Kills Happiness
This past weekend was a long weekend for those in the USA celebrating Memorial Day. I took an amazing vacation to Canada and had such a great time! It came with its own set of challenges because of PH and other medical conditions but I was able to work through them.
When I stopped and paused during the day, there were times when I would become frustrated with myself. I was frustrated at the fact that I felt more tired than everyone else. I was mad that walking up stairs left me more winded than it has in awhile, and I was upset that I was ashamed of having to wear oxygen.
When I actually started to put things into perspective and think about my anger and frustration that was beginning to cause me anxiety, I realized the root of this evil mind game was comparison. I was comparing myself to friends that I went with that didn’t have these medical conditions. I was comparing myself to others around me even though I didn’t know anything about them. I was mad with myself when I thought “you were able to do this last week, why can’t you keep up now?” Comparing myself to others and to myself was what was putting a damper on parts of my day.
Being able to recognize these thoughts and the reason for them was so important and really make me reevaluate my thinking. I focused on the positives of what I was able to accomplish instead of focusing on how much effort it took to get there. I started to remind myself to stay present and stay in the moment and fully enjoy each experience of my vacation.
Comparison kills happiness if you let it. Have you found yourself comparing yourself to others and to yourself? What are some things you say to yourself to stop this kind of negative thinking? Are you able to recognize when you are comparing?
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